Short Essay About Broken Family

People always ask me if it was hard coming from a broken family. By broken they’re referring to the fact that my parents divorced earlier than I can remember, both went through multiple relationships, and my siblings didn’t always have the same last name as me. From as early as I can remember, my parents didn’t get along, I was passed back and forth on a strict schedule as if the custody papers were actually a child rental agreement. I didn’t understand why my parents didn’t get along but even more confusing, I didn’t understand how they ever got along with each other. Honestly, it’s a miracle I was conceived. My friends would always ask if I wished they were still married but I couldn’t picture them together so that was always a quick and easy, no.

The hardest part about coming from a broken home isn’t that your parents aren’t in love anymore. The hardest part is that it’s not about you. When I say not about you, I mean nothing, nada. Even things you would think should be about you like your schedule, your school lunch money, your clothes, your extracurricular activities – they’re not about you, they’re all about the other parent. I felt like my parents spent more time trying to get back at one another, or jab each other, than actually tend to my needs. Being an only child only amplified the situation. I think with a few more biological siblings, they might have been too distracted but as an only child, my mom definitely had way too much time on her hands.

Whenever someone reacts to my childhood with sympathy I am always a little perplexed. If anything I feel fortunate to have come from a ‘broken home’. While people like to scoff at the fact that my dad has been married two times since my mom, I feel like I am the one who should be laughing because I’m rolling five deep when it comes to parental support after you count my mom’s beau who has been in my life since I was five. I might have been born an only child but I have been blessed with six siblings as a result of divorce (thank God, let’s face it I probably would have gone crazy by myself). I have one half brother and if my dad and his mom had never split I would not be here. What used to be a battle between attending 2 Christmas’s became a battle between 4 Christmas’s since I still visit my ex-step-mom’s house on the holidays. I can’t help but smile and feel loved. It’s hard not to feel the support of that many people.

I’ve gone through things I’d rather not relive. There were times that weren’t great and times that were downright awful, but whose family doesn’t have those times? I’d say the true meaning of family is having those rough edges that can make things uncomfortable with them but yet still make them your first choice above all else. Without my mom’s boyfriend, who would I go to when she has one of her moods? Heck, who would she go to when I have one of mine? Having a broken home teaches you that blood isn’t always thicker than water (sometimes it’s just as thick), forgiveness is possible, and although we were both grown adults, it was possible for my dad to find someone who would love me and my brother like we were her own.

I don’t know who I would be if it hadn’t been for my broken home. The adversity has played a role in making me who I am that nothing else ever could, in a very positive way. So please, if I end up going into any great detail about my Brady Bunch family, please don’t feel sorry for me, my heart is full and I have no other words to describe my upbringing other than to say that I was incredibly blessed to be given so many people who care so much about me, whom I care so much about in return.

Effects of broken family to students

In the Philippines, Family is defined as the small unit of society where students got their first learning about the world before they engage themselves in the real scenarios of life. It is believed that parents are the first advisers of their kids who will teach them everything about all aspects of life including education. Filipinos nurture the value of family and their importance to one’s life. Filipinos are well-known of having close family ties that love, respect, support and understand one another. An individual cannot achieve his or her goals without the necessary supports from the family. The family becomes the major inspiration of students to work hard and earn better grades so that one day they can help their family. Most of Filipino students believed that a perfect family can bring them hope, luck, success and a better life in the future. But if these things are not found in one student’s life, delay or halt and even absence of education might occur.

There are many difficulties faced by students while they are studying such as financial constraints, drug addiction, suspension from school, involvement in different fraternities, attached in relationships, unwillingness to attend classes and many more. But one of the most crucial problems to be considered that disturb students from their education is having a broken family. There are many reasons why some families are experiencing this kind of problem but one thing is certain, it deeply affects the life of children or students. This kind of problem can lead to psychological, emotional, spiritual and even mental breakdown on the students. If these problems are not given proper attention that it needs, it may lead to madness which sometimes resulted to suicide. One of the most influential but neglected supports for children’s learning and development is family involvement both in and out of school.

Over 40 years of steadily accumulating evidence show that family involvement is one of the strongest predictors of children’s school success, and that families play pivotal roles in their children’s cognitive, social, and emotional development from birth through adolescence. However, resources for and commitments to promoting meaningful family involvement have been few, weak, and inconsistent. Current education policy creates “random acts of family involvement” (Gil Kressley, 2008) instead of building a coherent, comprehensive, continuous, and equitable approach to involvement. This underscores the need for broader understanding of the potential benefits of more strategic and systemic investments in family involvement in education, particularly for disadvantaged children. Family involvement is defined as co-constructed, shared responsibility because meaningful and effective involvement includes not just parents’, caregivers’, and teachers’ behaviors, practices, attitudes, and involvement with the institutions where children learn, but also these institutions’ expectations, outreach, partnerships, and interactions with families.

Families, schools, and communities must together construct family involvement, actively taking part and sharing responsibility in building mutually respectful relationships and partnerships. The family is the child’s channel of contact with the world. The child as a result, acquires initial education and socialization from parents and other significant members of the family. Agulana (1999) stated that the family lays the psychological, moral and spiritual foundation in the overall development of the child. There is no such thing as the perfect family. Every family is unique with its own combination of strengths and weaknesses. Sometimes families get overwhelmed by what seems like an endless list of challenges when it comes to juggling work, school and individual family members’ needs.

Over the past 20 years single-parent families have become even more common than the so-called “nuclear family” consisting of a mother, father and children. Today we see all sorts of single parent families: headed by mothers, headed by fathers, headed by grandparents raising their grandchildren. Life in a single parent household – though common – can be quite demanding and stressful for the adult and the children. Structurally, family/homes is either broken or intact. A broken home in this context, is one that is not structurally intact, it could be as a result of divorce, separation, death of one parent, economic status and illegitimacy. According to Frazer (2001), psychological home conditions arise mainly from illegitimacy of children, the label of adopted child, broken home, divorce and parental deprivation. Such abnormal conditions of the home are likely to have a detrimental effect on the student performance in the school.

However, the child also faces more indirect conflict with high academic achievement from areas like; finance and family background. Families that are faced with financial challenges can have negative influence on the student intelligence and social life. (Children Defence Fund, 1994). —– http://www.termpaperwarehouse.com/essay-on/Family-Issues-And-Its-Effects-That/262499—– Family is the basic unit of society. This is the most important component of a country. A home is where a family lives. It may be alternated to the word ‘house’ but a house is more appropriately referring to the material structure, whereas ‘home’ refers to the intangible things that bind together the family members. It is the immeasurable love and care that keeps together the mother, father and their children. The Family is an essential factor for a human’s whole-being, everything about a man, his background, attitude, all of his achievements, his honor and dignity , relies on the structure of the family a man lives in with.

A family is composed of a father a mother and their offspring, bonded by their love for each other. Broken home is a term used to describe a household, usually in reference to parenting, in which the family unit does not properly function according to accepted societal norms. This household might suffer from domestic violence, a dissolved marriage, drug abuse, or anything else that interferes with the upbringing of children. The phrase ‘Broken Home’ is more commonly used when either the mother or father is not part of the family due to bad circumstances, as mentioned above, which makes a child’s upbringing suffer. It is less commonly used for parents who have simply split up, and are still noth in contact, and on good terms with the child. —- http://www.termpaperwarehouse.com/essay-on/Effect-Of-Broken-Home-On-The/206813—

STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM
The study aims to know the effects of broken family on the educational development of high school students in Recodo National High Shool, Zamboanga City. Specifically the study aims to answer the following questions:

1. What are the underlying causes of broken family?
2. What are the effects of broken family on the student’s educational
development in terms of:
a. Study habits
b. Class participation
c. Grades
d. Attendance in school
e. Relationship to friends or classmates/schoolmates
f. Source of financial support
3. What are the coping strategies of the students in order to pursue their education despite of having a broken family?

OBJECTIVES OF THE STUDY
1. To be able to know the underlying causes of broken family. 2. To be able to identify the effects of broken family on the student’s educational achievement in terms of: a. Study habits
b. Class participation
c. Grades
d. Attendance in school
e. Relationship to friends or classmates/schoolmates
f. Source of financial support
3. To be able to know the coping strategies of the students in order to pursue their education despite of having a broken family.

SIGNIFICANCE OF THE STUDY
The researcher believes that it is essential as students of Master of Arts in Education and as responsible citizens of the Philippines to study the effects of broken family to the educational achievement of high school students in Recodo National High School, Zamboanga City. The findings of the study will benefit the following:

STUDENTS: Particularly the students who are studying at Recodo National High School, they will come to know the different effects of having a broken family to their educational achievements in school. And they will come to know the different ways on how to be positive and how to live their lives fruitfully even if they have broken families.

PARENTS: The result of this study will serve as a warning to them that they need to be better parents in order for them to avoid different problems that might occur. This will also make them understand that the aftermath of separation will deeply affect the children and most of the times, it affects the children’s education. They need to know also that their children are the direct victims of broken families.

TEACHERS: The findings of this study will serve as a reflection to them to be a better, effective teacher and facilitators. For them to realize and analyze the different problems behind their students’ performances and for them to understand their students’ conditions and situations especially students who have broken families.

DEPED: Through this study, the agency will be able to see the effects of broken family to the educational achievements of students in Recodo National High School, Zamboanga City. This will also make the agency improve their different programs and services that cater students’ achievements.

COMMUNITY: This study will serve as a guide or reflection to them that they need to help, guide and advise its people especially those who are experiencing broken families. This findings will lead them create activities or programs that address this kind of problem.

OTHER RESEARCHERS: The results of this study will serve as reference and basis for further studies in the future and also be linked to other related studies.

SCOPE AND DELIMITATION
The main focus of the study was confined on the effects of broken family to the educational achievement of students in Recodo National High School, Zamboanga City. The study focuses only on the students with broken families and is studying at Recodo National High school.

CONCEPTUAL FRAMEWORK
RESPONDENTSINDEPENDENT VARIABLE DEPENDENT VARIABLE

Figure 1

DEFINITION OF TERMS
These are the operant definitions used by the researchers:
FAMILY – A group of people living together and functioning as a single household, usually consisting of parents and their children.

BROKEN FAMILY – consists of a biological family that has separated for specific reasons that may result in single-parent families, stepfamilies or blended families.

STUDENTS’ EDUCATIONAL DEVELOPMENT –
EFFECTS – A result or a change in a given situation as a direct result of action by somebody or something else. SOURCE OF FINANCIAL SUPPORT –
RESIDENCY – The place or house or other dwelling in which somebody lives.

STATUS OF STUDENTS WITH BROKEN FAMILIES –
STUDENTS’ OPINIONS –
CHAPTER II
REVIEW OF RELATED LITERATURE AND STUDIES
A. RELATED LITERATURE

TITLE V
THE FAMILY
Chapter 1. The Family as an Institution

Art. 149. The family, being the foundation of the nation, is a basic social institution which public policy cherishes and protects. Consequently, family relations are governed by law and no custom, practice or agreement destructive of the family shall be recognized or given effect. (216a, 218a) Chapter 2. The Family Home

Art. 152. The family home, constituted jointly by the husband and the wife or by an unmarried head of a family, is the dwelling house where they and their family reside, and the land on which it is situated. (223a) Chapter 3.
Effect of Parental Authority

Upon the Persons of the Children

Art. 220. The parents and those exercising parental authority shall have with the respect to their unemancipated children on wards the following rights and duties: (1) To keep them in their company, to support, educate and instruct them by right precept and good example, and to provide for their upbringing in keeping with their means; (2) To give them love and affection, advice and counsel, companionship and understanding; (3) To provide them with moral and spiritual guidance, inculcate in them honesty, integrity, self-discipline, self-reliance, industry and thrift, stimulate their interest in civic affairs, and inspire in them compliance with the duties of citizenship; (4) To furnish them with good and wholesome educational materials, supervise their activities, recreation and association with others, protect them from bad company, and prevent them from acquiring habits detrimental to their health, studies and morals; (5) To represent them in all matters affecting their interests; (6) To demand from them respect and obedience;

(7) To impose discipline on them as may be required under the circumstances; and (8) To perform such other duties as are imposed by law upon parents and guardians. (316a)

ARTICLE XIV
EDUCATION, SCIENCE AND TECHNOLOGY, ARTS, CULTURE AND SPORTS
EDUCATION
Section 1. The State shall protect and promote the right of all citizens to quality education at all levels, and shall take appropriate steps to make such education accessible to all. —official gazette of the rep. of the philippines, http://www.gov.ph/constitutions/the-1987-constitution-of-the-republic-of-the-philippines/the-1987-constitution-of-the-republic-of-the-philippines-article-xiv/—

Family is the basic unit of society. This is the most essential component of a country. A home is where a family lives. It may be alternated to the word ‘house’ but a house is more appropriately referring to the material structure, whereas ‘home’ refers to the intangible things that bind together the family members. It is the immeasurable love and care that keeps together the mother, father and their children. However, no matter how ideal a family in the terms of their relationship, there are still hardships and misunderstandings that will come along the way. It is just part of any relationship anyway. But, the sad part is when one of the family members gave up and the others have no choice but to accept and let go. Thus, the family starts to be broken.

A family can consist of a father, mother, and children. They all live in the same house until they are old enough to leave. Broken Family is a family with children involved where parents are legally or illegally separated whose parents have decided to go and live their lives separately for several reasons/problems. A broken family is one where the parents (mother and father) of a child or children have split up and no longer share a single family home as a family unit. This is also known as a broken home. Have you ever heard the expression “A family who’s eats together stays together”? Well, that is true, but and emotionally broken up family means that the family has grown apart, fights all the time, doesn’t get along. It doesn’t just take a toll on the family, it takes a toll on the family members. No one wants a broken home. Even if they say they do.

Broken Family can be describe as a broken home, where in a child don’t have a both parent at home. The husband and wife are legally separated. It can also be spouse and child who were abandoning. Sometimes death of one member of the family can lead to broken family. Broken family is incomplete.

However, no matter how ideal a family in the terms of their relationship, there are still hardships and misunderstandings that will come along the way. But, the sad part is when one of the family members gave up and the others have no choice but to accept and let go. Thus, the family starts to be broken. Broken family varies from numerous reasons why it had to be that way. Misunderstanding starts from simple domestic quarrel that grows impertinently damaging the long-forged relationship between the family members. When a couple split up, it is the children that are greatly affected scarring them physically, emotionally and socially. The most common dispute between a husband and a wife is the financial issue.

A couple that haven’t able to finish studies and started a family early would likely experience difficulty in monetary aspects. An undergraduate would have a hard time finding a lucrative job. Not mentioning that building a family needs a steadfast preparation particularly financially. Another reason why a family has broken up is because of parental or friends influence. Any relationship should be founded by unconditional love. Having a family is all about sacrifice and self-denial. Lack of genuine sacrificial love is one of the major reasons why couples split up.

Breaks home and has been proven a million times over. Infidelity starts when a husband or wife starts to be discontented with his or her partner. Thus, seeking a partner that can provide the needs he or she wants to fulfill. It could emotional needs, sexual desire or even financial needs. The key in avoiding such unfaithfulness is being very much certain on who you will be marrying. Making sure that your love is enough to spend a lifetime with that partner is important. Although the couple seems to be hurtful when a split up has been decided, it is the children that are taking the largest toll of having a broken family. The impact of having a broken home usually manifests in the adolescence of the child experiencing the trauma of separation. It may cause an internal conflict which may result to depression, anxiety, disobedience, aggression and low self-esteem.

There are difference between a complete and a broken family. Complete family can looked at their child properly than a broken family can. Most of the teenagers who belongs to a broken family did not graduate. They even suffer emotional stress and depression which usually leads to suicide. While teenagers who belongs to a complete family graduated with even honours. But there are some products of broken family who were successful because their experiences inspire them to make a better family someday unlike the family they have. Members of a complete family are also capable of handling problems than a member from a broken one but they are both acceptable in the society.

Broken family is a major problem of the society that should be given enough attention. The behaviour of family setup affects the social, economic and political aspects of a country. It should not be taken for granted as if it will fix the problem on its own. Unconditional love and eternal care should be the foundation of every family. It should always be remembered to keep the family away from the thoughts of separation. —- http://ambbfa.blogspot.com/—-

B. RELATED STUDY

CHAPTER III
RESEARCH METHODOLOGY
This chapter discusses the methods and procedures in undertaking the study. This includes the research design, research locale, research population and sampling procedures, research instrument, validation of the data, data gathering procedure and data analysis. RESEARCH DESIGN

This study employed the descriptive method of research design through an interview guide formulated by the researchers based on the problem statements.

LOCALE OF THE STUDY
This study was conducted at Recodo National High School located at barangay Recodo, Zamboanga City.

POPULATION AND SAMPLING PROCEDURE
The respondents of the study were selected through

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